Caroline Pont 8/17/25 Caroline Pont 8/17/25

Love - Part III

This is Part III of my definition(s) of Love. Enjoy!

1)Love is having the courage to start over.

2)Love is making sacrifices for our greatest self.

3)Love is seeing a door through an impasse

4)Love is being.

5)Love is feeling the good, the bad, the ugly.

6)Love is having boundaries with yourself.

7)Love is the ability to say no to what we crave, and the ability to say yes to what feels safe.

8)Love is having hard conversations with our loved ones.

9)Love is creating beauty in our personal world.

10)Love is having no regrets.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

Caroline Pont 8/16/25 Caroline Pont 8/16/25

Feel them all!

Today’s post is inspired by a convo I recently had with a dear friend of mine, and that is also a follow-up of my previous articles.

The emotions we have are infinite. There are as many as we want. Most humans usually feel the same throughout our lifetime, because we have been conditioned to do so. We all have “positive” and “negative” emotions inside of ourselves. I don’t like to use those words - hence the quotation marks - but for now, it will do.

In the convo, we were talking about romance. To be more specific, we talked about the validation that we, as humans, we are looking for, when we start committing to someone, or are about to. We spend more and more time with a person and we find we have common ground, projects, the same vision of the future, and we decide to get together to build something of significance with the other. Lullabies and butterflies, we both become vulnerable with one another, and things “get serious”. We have shed lots of stuff and we have gone a long way, but this relationship now triggers something deep inside of us: unworthiness, the fear to not be chosen or loved enough.

We panic, we start overextending ourselves for the other, to ensure we cover everything on our end, and we play the perfect partner who works their ass off on themselves and who invests a lot in the relationship. Nothing wrong with that. As long as this is genuinely planned as a stepping stone for the relationship we have with the other person, and not a cover-up for some lingering wound that we might not be chosen or unworthy of their love.

When we get back onto the dating world, we put into practice the awareness mindset we’ve developed over the years, but the past relationships we had might resurface, or should I say, the way we embodied ourselves in these relationships. And it’s ok. It’s ok to have these emotions, scarcity, fear, or feeling that we’ve spread ourselves too thin. But we forgot something. We are not the same person anymore, and this time, we are not gonna screw it up. And for the record, we never screwed it up. We did the best we could with our level of awareness at the time, and when reflecting back on our past, we should always pat ourselves on the back with compassion saying we’ve a good job.

Now it’s a different story. We are just gonna sit with our emotions. We are gonna sit with our loneliness if our loved one is not physically present with us yet, we are gonna sit with our feeling of unworthiness, we are gonna sit with our fear of not being chosen. Would we rather be chosen for someone we’re pretending to be, or for someone we are, with all our wonderful strengths and weaknesses? You see, when things get serious, we tend to catch up with this and our ego starts running the show again.

I could give here a thousand examples of why it’s impossible to be lonely, not chosen, unworthy; but it will not be registered if the emotions have not been felt, digested, and discarded by our body.

For people who rely on somebody to give meaning to their Life, it might trigger them to read the following, but we do not need anyone.

We navigate our boat, our Life, ourselves, from within. We do not need to search for validation on the outside. Let’s imagine for a second, that I tell my dog that he is unworthy. Do you think it’s possible? Do you think a dog has the capacity to be worthy, or not worthy? A dog is just being, and when we choose him, we did not ask him to be a good boy to earn worthiness points. Even when he is not a good boy, he is worthy. He just is.

Gambling our worth with a romantic partner, giving them the key to our worthiness or validation, is a game we’re playing only with ourselves. For how long?

When we feel a negative emotion, we tend to either ignore it, hide from it, or pile up a bunch of stuff on it to pretend we’re busy with other things. The truth is, there is no positive or negative emotions. Everything we feel is just feedback from our soul, to show us the direction we need to work on in a case of discomfort, or to follow, in the case of peace.

There is nothing wrong with us, to feel that. It’s freaking painful to feel those emotions, because at the first place, we do not feel safe enough in our body to own our emotions and feelings. We’d rather hand them in to this new relationship, or to our friend, or our parents, or our social media. Please, validate me, tell me everything I don’t dare telling myself.

I remember a story my sister told me, that one day, they celebrated a big win at the office. She contributed a lot to this win, worked her ass off and navigated the politics with outstanding results. The entire staff was there, and her boss thanked her personally in front of everybody. She told me that she welcomed the compliments, but that her mind went “not enough”. There was a part of herself that was still craving the validation, despite the entire office clapping their hands and celebrating her. We’ll never be able to receive those things from them, if we don’t give it to us at the first place. Never.

Being worthy is just a human concept. There is no such thing as being worthy or not worthy. We are, so by definition, we are worthy of all the beauty in the world. When we feel lonely, the part of us that thinks we should not feel lonely is just our ego. Because it wants to control; it wants to control how we feel. Because we should feel happy, hyped and only feel stuff that feels good all the time. This is not the reality of the human experience. We’ve had the privilege to have this body to fully feel alive and to fully feel what it is to be ourselves, with our past, in this present, and with the future we imagine.

Something I’ve also noticed is that, once those emotions kick in and we get scared, the real reason of that might be that that we are afraid to experience happiness. The conditioning is so strong that we believe it’s too good to be true, to be grounded in our Truth, and so we give the power to someone or something else.

The ego creates stories about us, and we cannot do anything but trying to “solve the problem” by keeping our mind busy with stuff and looking for solutions outside ourselves. While in reality, feeling those feelings is the ultimate freedom bandage we can get.

When we let go of these feelings of wanting to control the “negative” emotions, we open ourselves up to that magic. We transcend the past and we merge onto a higher timeline, where we can strive by being honest and authentic with ourselves, and with others. When we feel whole and complete, we open ourselves up to the desires of our soul, to our greatest gifts, and once the curtain is lifted, there is no going back. I believe that our ego puts ourselves through pain and suffering, to just remember who we are at the first place: a being with infinite possibilities, and infinite paths that lead to happiness.

It’s time to make a deal with ourselves. It’s time to feel the whole thing. The loneliness, the unworthiness, the scarcity. All those guys are our friends, disguised as bad guys. They actually are a rite of passage to outgrow the old version of us that still clings onto the past, like a child would hide in his mommy’s skirts. This is a privilege of being human, to grow through all these stages and steps to move forward the greater version of happiness we can find in this lifetime.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

Caroline Pont 8/12/25 Caroline Pont 8/12/25

What do you really want from them?

Hello there!

Today’s topic is all about facing our real self. As if there was another way around in Life, hehehe.

Since we were born, we’ve been conditioned to be, think, and behave a certain way. Once we start awaken from this reality, the veil is lifted, and we start engaging with ourselves and the world around us in a different way. We develop better habits, behaviours and ways of thinking. We change our diet, we spend time on our own, being disinterested by what other people do around us, because we have better things to learn and do: becoming our best self. We carry on with that development, then we become a bit more open, and start going out again. We’ve gone far in our growth, we’ve done the exercises, the meditations, cut off social media.

We speak to ourselves in a friendlier manner, and we feel a bit more compassion for those around us.

And then The Universe sends an person as a stepping stone, to see whether or not we’ve stepped our game up.

When we interact with them, we feel good, the positive energy is there. The interaction goes smoothly, we’ve been socializing with them, happy to have taken ourselves out, having a good time. On our end, we are just being ourselves, with a laid-back attitude, friendly, positive, open. This person might not have a clue of all the hard work we’ve been doing for so long.

Then they tell us what they want from us. Because everybody wants something, right? Maybe they want a friendship, maybe they want a romantic relationship, or a one off? Maybe then don’t even know what they want, because they’ve been wandering in their shadow by constantly hanging out with people to avoid looking at their stuff.

When we’ve spent a bit of time with someone and we like the person, we might also be head over heels for them, especially if it has been ages since we’ve interacted with other people due to our personal mission. We might get a bit confused, not really knowing where this would go. Chemicals in our brain and hormones in action, our old ways might be resurfacing. We tend to cross off our thoughts, praying that it will lead us whenever it needs to. This is our old way of being coming up to the surface.

Sometimes, our old ways tend to get back unannounced. That’s the test. The real question here, is not what do these people want. It is: What do we want from them?

We’re genuinely here, spending some of our precious time with this guy, or this girl, so what do we want? Our ego wants to make us believe that we want a genuine connection. But if we look deeper, what do we want? What do we get from them?

Ask yourself the question honestly. Without any positive affirmation or bullshit stuff such as “we are all whole and complete.”

Because we do want something from them, that’s for sure. One of the main causes of regression, if I may say so, is to take stuff for granted. When we’ve done the work and hustled through our dark stuff, we breathe at the surface and we think we’ve arrived back home. But hey, I’m not Buddha, neither are you, and neither is the person before you. And answering this question is a hard one, because we’ll see, if we are truthful to ourselves, if we keep applying the work when we are around real, 3D human beings, who, by the way, are not all acting in all of our best interests.

Most people are not bad people; most people will act according to their own needs and wants. Same as us. So what do we want from them? Do we want a genuine connection, to develop a friendship, an intimate relationship, have a one night stand? Or are we looking at feeling superior, needed, or getting validation from them?

“Come on, Caroline, this is not spiritual.” Well, no one says it is or it isn’t, that’s everyone’s own beliefs that are at play here. We are our own judge and we decide to bang the gavel to condemn ourselves or not. Up to us.

You see, once we start growing, the trap is to be crystal clear with our intentions. To embody this new person that seems a bit wobbly in their new presence, in their beingness. But we must stand our ground.

I’m not saying that every single interaction must be thought through, but we must have the intention within ourselves, to be clear and to have clarity, in everything we do. We must ask ourselves what do we wish to get from them. It’s convenient to say that we love everybody and everything, but it takes balls to actually affirm and speak our Truth, even if it is ugly, not spiritual, or something we’re not proud of. We have to be practical in our approach, instead of meditating and waiting for the answer to show up, or to wait for a sign from The Universe.

This consistency of intention, is the key to our beingness. This is the key to our freedom, our peace. The big questions of “What do I want? What do I get?” must be asked many times during the day. By doing so, we shed a light on our real intention with somebody. And it prevents us from harming them, or the other way around.

Many people just throw themselves in relationships, saying that they have a good feeling about someone, and that they should go with the flow. But our “good vibe” indicator is usually based on past traumas that keep attracting the wrong people. When we rewire our nervous system, we rewire what feels safe for us at that moment The people who seemed boring before, now feel safe. The people who seemed exciting, now feel dangerous. And by the way, our intuition always guides us towards the greater lesson our soul needs to learn, not towards a perfect relationship or The One. Le’ts be pragmatic here and look at the bigger picture.

The big question then is “Should I have a pure, disinterested intention?” Well, it’s up to you, what you value and where you wish to go. If we decide to behave like assholes, we must ensure that we know the consequences. If we decide to build long-term, healthy, clear relationships, we must maybe avoid people who do not have emotional intelligence and clarity in their Life.

The basic knowledge of “every action has consequences” is no BS. Our healing is not fixed after the breakthrough we had with our therapist. It is not fixed after our 1H morning meditation, our 45min yoga class at lunchtime, or after work when colleagues wanna celebrate the end of the week and get trashed. Healing is a lifetime affair. Healing is a lifestyle. When we care about ourselves, when we really care about who we wish to become/are becoming, and live a long Life, we care about everything. What do we really want from them?

We are the only one able to provide ourselves love, approval, peace. It’s not on the outside. We gotta create that from within. And it starts with being honest with ourselves when we try to give this job to contractors to do it for us, in the shape of this hot guy online, or this lovely friend of us who nods harmoniously to everything we say. Once we stop putting our worth and validation, and decisions into other people’s arms, that’s when the real game begins. And so is our Life.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

Caroline Pont 8/7/25 Caroline Pont 8/7/25

Protect your peace

Hi there! This article is inspired by a situation that has happened to me recently. Enjoy!

Some of you know that I currently reside in France. I moved in this forested part of France around a year ago, since I was looking for peace, nature, without the disrupting street noises. I actually traveled to this area for a meditation retreat, fell in love, and decided to stick around. One of the best decisions of my Life. Anyway, I spent lots of time in nature, with sometimes no cell reception, being with myself. Life was good. A bit later on, I moved in the neighbourhing hamlet, just on the outskirts of the 200 inhabitants village.

Like in any rural area, I guess (I have not tried out all of them), people are very welcoming, inviting you for coffee, a “sirop”, and always a biscuit or homemade tart to accompany the discussion. Oh boy, it felt so good! I felt finally at peace, seeing all these pine trees as far as the eyes can see, no street lights to stain the dark skies, and pure silence. Except for a tractor or two, carrying haystacks at dusk.

I have never encountered such friendliness without any agenda, welcoming me as a part of their family, stuffing my arms with fresh fruit and veggies everytime I was around. Those people were grounded AF, calm, always smiling. BUT. I knew this would not last.

You see, I moved there because I was looking for inner clarity, and I guess the street noises and agitation around me were too much. I had previously lived in big cities, and at that specific time in my Life, I could no longer deal with that.

Once I got this job (caring for people recovering from addictions, elderly, or people who suffer(ed) a disease), the neighbours kept coming to me. After a long day of work, caring for others, I could hear a knock on my door as soon as I got home, once, twice, or sometimes three times at night. I have to be honest with you guys, as much as I love them, it pissed me off.

I felt bad not to open my door and tell them that I wasn’t free for a chat at 8.30PM after a long day of work. I felt bad for dodging invitations, or for not seeing them for a few days. But I realized that it was because I had a greater goal in mind: my peace. And that, is not negociable. That is not something I can trample on, or reschedule to a later day. This is part of my identity, and it might always be. Instead of people-pleasing, I had to assert my Truth, which was that, as much as I appreciate you, I did not want to spend time with you after work to talk about the weather and the crops.

It goes the same with men around my age in this village. As I was considered a city girl (I was born in Paris in another lifetime), I attracted attention a little bit, in particular those guys who did not have a lot of options. As flattering as their invitation to have a good roll in the hay together was, I did not resonate with them. I had to draw a few boundaries with some of them so that they CLEARLY understand my perspective. No, I do not want to go drinking or “hanging out”, or go to this spit-roast pork party. None of these fit my values. Neither did these men. And if they did not, well, this is not my problem. It was kind of a hard thing to do at first, because being a village, everyone knows everyone’s moves and behaviours. Really. My mind was making excuses to assert myself, such as “if I say no, then I’m gonna be perceived as an antisocial asshole.” But saying no to my needs was too painful. It became easier as time went by as muscle memory kicked in.

Why? Because I had to take care of myself, after a day of caring for others, do stuff for myself, continue on building my Life, and I couldn’t be bothered with people wanting to chit chat or invite me for a cordial. The conversations where always around the farm, the harvests, the weather. Which was fine for me at first. There was this simplicity that I craved for, when I moved there, that I thought would be needed for me in order to have clarity and stay grounded. But I also need intellectual stimulation, conversations of similar interests, and peace on my own.

As much as I appreciated the surroundings, the luscious nature and being grounded with the animals, the other criteria that were missing were the lack of community with like-minded individuals, the convenience of shopping groceries for myself that are not easily found in a traditional part of France (very meaty, I would say), and also the fact that I would not picture myself live my entire Life there. There was a gap between who I was and who I wish to become, and those lovely people. I got laughed at when I came back from a meditation week, or judged because I refused meat at lunch.

Which brings me to a harsh reality: that my relationships were not based on the common values we shared, but on the untold rule of “ because you’re my neighbour, we automatically qualified to hang out. ” Those people helped me shed some of my prejudice about the rural Life and also confirm some if it. Which is fine, you know? I’m not spitting on them or the Life they’re living. On the opposite, I feel that, with a very simple way of living their Life, they do a pretty awesome job and they are happy. They work their ass off to feed themselves, their kids, and pass on their wealth through land. Great for them. But long-term, this is not something that I resonate with.

I realized the limitations of where I was. Staying there for a while would have prevented me from becoming my higher self. I guess what I wish to say is, there is “pollution” everywhere you go. You see, when I went on a trip to Kathmandu, I found myself in the middle of total chaos in Thamel, but despite that, I was feeling at peace inside. I had this thought that I shared with my lovely friend Bridget I met there, that we’ve travelled across the world to look for peace in another country, that was seemingly less peaceful on the paper than the one we had just left. And there is also peace everywhere we go. It’s all inside of ourselves. What gets seen by us on the outside in what is being reflected on the inside. And I guess it’s our soul showing us our best interests; what works best for us, at this moment. I found peace in this village, but I also found limitations after a while. And this is our intuition talking to us, that we must listen to. It’s waving a flag in our third eye meaning that we need to take action and move on and up to the next level.

It took me months to realize that, and that’s okay. Because I was afraid to move again, to “start” over. We never start over. We just take with ourselves our habits, behaviours and healthy supplements in our luggage, and we fuck off wherever we wish to. And we figure it out. As simple as that.

Life is not linear, time is not linear, neither our soul growth and our path. We feel the energy of a place wherever we go. Some people are more attuned to it than others. I do feel that all the time. And it’s perfectly fine, normal, to '“sniff” a place one day, and resonate with it, and another day to wake up and decide to move on. For our own soul evolution, for our Life, for our peace. It’s of the utmost important for us to be tuned in with what we wish and how our environment contributes or not to it. It might be that it contributes to it for an entire Lifetime, or for 1 year, 10 years, who knows. As long as we stick to being at peace with ourselves, it will never go wrong. We’ll follow this red threat our entire Life. Circumstances, people, do not matter in this decision. The threat has been there from the beginning and will be there when we catch our last breath. Protecting, nourishing, and expanding our peace is one of the best gifts we can give ourselves.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

Caroline Pont 8/4/25 Caroline Pont 8/4/25

The sacred gift of worthiness

When we get to a point in our Life when we feel we had enough, most of us decide it’s time for a change. Some of us are just not happy with the discomfort of change, so they do think about changing some stuff in their Life, but it actually does not go beyond their thoughts. It just is a fleeting thought that might come and go. But because we have been accustomed to feeling the way we feel, we believe it’s the only option for us. When it comes to change, the only metrics to use is honesty. Honesty with ourselves, with God/The Universe. When we are being honest, things change if we place our intention on it.

What is misunderstood in the world of becoming our greater self -and it’s a paradox-, is that we actually don’t need to change. We are good as we are. Period.

Then what’s up with this "becoming a better person” narrative?

You see, once we start growing, the little voice in our mind creeps in. I workout every day, I am better than my fat colleague. I eat plant-based, of course I’m doing the right thing, compared to my friend over there. I drive an electric car, not like most peasants in my hood, PLEASE! This supposed boost creates confidence as a side effect, which is only perceived as a cloth on our ego.

The only satisfaction that we feel when we encounter this voice is shallow, superficial. It does not last, and it always wants more. To impress, to show off, to be seen.

It’s not really about not being good enough, or on the opposite, being bad. It’s about what we want, it’s about what we desire for ourselves. We will not be a better person if we reach our goal of losing weight, or if we stop indulging in emotional blackmail with a loved one, or if we eat a salad instead of a steak. We will not be a better person if we show the world that we are able to get our shit right, or that we earn this much.

It’s all about the possibilities of creation. Of living a Life filled with experiences, Love, unity and alignment with ourselves.

People around us actually do not matter. Hold your horses before you start smashing virtual tomatoes on my comments section! By this, I mean that we’ve always looked in other people’s eyes to get validated, to get stamped with approval. Once they approve of us, we can finally walk with confidence in our best outfit and serve ourselves a glass of champagne. Until the next deceitfulness shows up.

And where are we at, in this pattern? Who are we? Have we checked in with ourselves, while displaying all these forms of healthy habits and behaviours, instead of creating an Instagram story to show the whole world how awesome and lovable we are? Or do we feel miserable, because we feel deep down that “this” guy or girl is not who we want to be?

Chasing our worth through others’ validation is another trap from the ego (check my previous article here). And chasing our worth once we’ve started to develop ourselves spiritually is another form of it.

Where does that lead us? It’s all about control. The control we feel when we believe we behave like we are supposed to. The belief we have that this is the right thing to do. It’s black or white. No grey area. Behaving as such is an illusion that we are in control, then we are worthy. By entertaining this behaviour, it’s like we were energetically screaming to the whole world:

“Hey, look at me! I’m a good person! I’m doing awesome things. Now validate me!”

Because that’s the only way we found to cope with the harsh reality, that

1.We can screw up

2.Not everyone will like us

3.We are not this perfect human being we’ve spent our lifetime pretending we were

4.We are responsible for our Life and no one else is

5.We don’t owe anything to anyone.

It’s all about being vulnerable with oneself and show up for us the best we can. No pretending, no bullshitting, just honesty and authenticity.

Becoming better for the sake of showing it off to others, is a big hurdle that many people do not realize they’ve been entangled in for many years.

I believe reality offers a paradox to everything in Life. A little bit of this and a little bit of that. Too much of this, not enough of that. What we must be aware of is, how does that balance work out in our Life? Putting all our eggs in the basket of others, giving them the chance to approve of us, isn’t it too much to ask? And what would be the real reason behind that? Because we believe others have the power to make us feel a certain way. Because we believe that the power is out there, not within us. Because we are too afraid to feel our stuff, and we give others the opportunity to “control” that. It usually comes from familiar patterns that we have never healed.

When we face this truth, we confront ourselves to an ugly part that lies in the darkest areas of our Being. Despite that, we must have self-compassion, this pattern being one that we’ve played and played thousand times again. It’s engrained in every single cell of our body and our subconscious mind.

One of the worst things we can do for ourselves is to give this power to others. We do not need people to feel worthy. We are worthy, because we exist. We exist, we happen, for a reason. That’s all. Under the many layers of conditioning we’ve been accustomed to, lies the truth of our nature: an infinite, powerful soul whose only desire is to experience Life.

This is why it’s important to let go of this option of looking for ourselves in others. It’s a waste of time, energy, and it will derail us from our true core, our true nature.

What usually happens when we stop caring about others opinion, is that we feel lost at first. We feel that we do not have any direction, we’re on our own, sailing the ship of our Life.

Well, the reality is, we’ve always been on our own, but we were just not seeing it. As simple as that.

Then, the more we practice letting go of others’ opinion or validation, the more we feel free, unattached to whatever they might say or do, because we’ve been surfing on the wave of our own set of values and beliefs that serve us in the Life we want to experience.

Rejection is a necessary part of the process, and I’ll talk more about it in another article.

The more we embody the pattern of letting go of what others think, the freer we will feel, and be in our power. The more we embody that energy within us, the more we open the gates of letting The Universe guide us towards what and who is really, deeply meant for us.

It will bring a Life aligned with Truth, our Truth, and the Truth The Universe has in store for us. It will align us with joy and the sacred energy of God.

What matters is us, how we wanna show up in the world according to our values and passions, and what experiences we wish for ourselves in this lifetime. Giving ourselves the gift of worthiness that we’ve longed for our entire Life.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

Caroline Pont 8/2/25 Caroline Pont 8/2/25

Where is your loyalty?

Howdy! I wanted to write about a topic that feels very touchy for most people. It’s about the dark parts in ourselves that we do not acknowledge.

It happens to all of us. The thing is, when we decide to become a better person, and get to the point of creating a meaningful Life, we do see, while doing the work, patterns that emerge from ourselves. We start noticing our triggers, our behaviours, the relationships we entertain and the relationships we don’t entertain (they matter equally, more on it in a future blog post).

We do the work, and we fix some issues. We start to create healthy habits, we start getting into the momentum of a more pleasant Life. What we get from our efforts is so much better than what we used to live in, or experience, that we think we are out of the woods. After having sustained a certain period of time on this high, we get back to our routine, and we stop moving. Of course, we’ve ran a long way from where we were to get home. But this now is far from what our soul deeply desires, and far from the marvellous potential that human beings have inside of themselves. We get satisfied with a bit of discomfort, and a bit more comfort. We eat healthier, and we still go to Maccas on the weekend. We experience better friendships, and we still hold onto this toxic situationship.

Most people unfortunately stop there. Their way of getting content and satisfied with “a little bit more than others” is a trap. Because “a little bit more” is a statement that is not favorable to “all the way in”. What “all the way in” means? It means erasing everything that does not lift us up on our highest high, and for that to happen, we have to make conscious choices and decisions that will alter the rest of our Life, on the short and long term. It means cutting out all toxicity, all behaviors that would reminisce us that there is an alternative to the greatest version of ourselves.

We knit at every second the tapestry of our future self. Every decision we make is either going for, or against, our greatest self. When we listen to our mind that says we should stop there, or we should aim lower, we put ourselves at risk of failing, and we fall back in the trap of our societal beliefs that teach us we should be conventional and stay in line.

Of course, among all human beings on planet Earth, not everyone will want to become their best self. Not everyone get to the point of awareness that something better is possible for them. At this point in time, Life evolves so fast. The generation our parents lived in seems well long forgotten, and the new generation is far from where we stand ourselves. Not working for accomplishing our greatest self is ok, though. If this is what we want, so be it. No one can judge us for that.

For those of us who wish to upgrade and reach their highest potential, it’s a hard, tenuous road. We gotta be sure that this is what we want. With social media these days, the focus is on looking perfect, having loads of cash, and showing we live in a fairy tale with the perfect partner. This is another side of the self-improvement trap, and buying these lies is the same as what societal beliefs want us to entertain. Some of us pretend we do not want to be part of society and so we follow other beliefs, thinking we’ve freed ourselves up from the rope that was around our neck from the beginning. This is just another aspect of denying our Truth, though.

What we need is to know ourselves. Like really getting to know ourselves. Instead of wanting to look hot, filling our pockets with loads of cash, or spending time finding the right partner to look good, all for the sake of it and to show the world we are worth it because we fit the model that has been served to us, we should get to know ourselves deeply, fully, and understand who we are, how we work, what we want from Life. Without this deep knowledge, that is hiding deep within ourselves, it is impossible for us to embrace a greater existence. On the basis that we gotta get everything sorted quickly and harvest the rewards straight away, we must step back, use our awareness, and take a deep dive within our soul. The outside does not matter.

This brings me to the point of the title of this article: where is our loyalty? Does our loyalty reside in being a good soldier, scrolling incessantly to catch up with the latest trend of who we are supposed to be, being a follower of someone else’s beliefs? Or are we faithful to ourselves, getting to know ourselves, falling in love with ourselves, and spreading it out by embodying it in the outside world without giving a s*** about people’s opinions? In order to achieve that, we must look deep.

When I mentioned that most people stop after experiencing a bit of discomfort and a bit more comfort, I meant that this step is just step 1. Step 2 consists in embodying the parts that we subconsciously know are hidden within ourselves, that we are afraid to address. It means acknowledging all the beliefs we have about anything that trigger us. Our ego gets inflated when it comes to being our best self. After step 1, we feel more confident, and also better than most people. This is a smokescreen to our soul. Deriving confidence upon something we’ve achieved that others did not, is a lie. If we need to compare ourselves with others, we do not hold our frame, and we don’t do it for the right reasons. The hidden, dark, sticky parts within ourselves are there, waiting for us to be dug up. It consists in acknowledging their existence first. Once we do that, we do not have to do anything, but to have the intention to clear them. Situations will come up in our lives that reflect those dark, murky characteristics. It’s up to us to make the choice, with our greater self in mind.

The deeper we go on this journey of being our greatest self, the clearer we realize that it’s never-ending. The deeper we entertain a healthy life, the deeper we notice that bruises, scars and untold stories are just another common aspect of our Being. Being ok with these parts in ourselves, is the key to our freedom. We might feel a duality within ourselves; it’s part of this natural process. With every conscious decision we make, we shed another coat of debilitating qualities we do not consider are worth being part of the greater human experience we deserve.

If we feel uncomfortable, tight, on edge during this journey, it means it’s working out for us. Having the conviction that the path we’re on will lead us to a fulfilling existence, if we remain loyal to ourselves. Not to a belief outside of us, not to a social media trend. We give ourselves the permission to be entitled to our own loyalty, to continue on this path, and to embrace Life the way we choose to, instead of letting the outside world dictate our role for us.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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Love - Part II

Following up on my first blog post about Love, here is part 2 of what Love is. I hope you get inspired!

1)Love is helping ourselves, and then helping others.

2)Love is making compromises for the sake of a better Life.

3)Love is embracing who we are being in the middle of an uneasy situation.

4)Love is accepting the dark, negative patterns that we still hold within ourselves.

5)Love is giving ourselves the ability to experience Life at its fullest.

6)Love is acknowledging our past in the present.

7)Love is having a vision for ourselves.

8)Love is waking up in the morning and do the things we are supposed to do, even when we don’t feel like it.

9)Love is taking charge of our own existence.

10)Love is knowing when a situation does not reflect our ideal future anymore, and allowing ourselves to move on from that.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

Caroline Pont 7/26/25 Caroline Pont 7/26/25

Seeds of Life

This morning, I attended a religious ceremony held for one of my patients. He had been hospitalized for a few months, his physical and cognitive states were declining, and on a quiet late afternoon, surrounded by his loved ones, his wished everyone farewell, and off he went to greet his late family, on the other side of our world.

He was one of my first patient overall, and the first who needed specific care and follow-up. A very gentle soul. Classy, elegant, always dressed up to the nines. Always smiling, pleasing, reassuring. His wife had moved to a special care facility since she was no longer able to be home. He loved her so, so much. He always spoke about her, about their trips together, the wonderful children they had raised together. He always said she was the love of his Life, and how grateful he was to her. I could feel his soul shiver wholeheartedly every time he was talking about her and his children. He had a lot of humor, always managing to speak his truth out with grace and gentleness.

We had so much fun together. Singing, cooking and talking, going to the market, sipping a coffee on the terrace, or just going for a walk in nature. He was always moving with intention, he was always thinking things through, he was always preventing his words to hurt. Despite the disease catching up quickly and the weaknesses he was forced to face.

He had shared many stories with me. The encouragements he was whispering to his children after a defeat. The uprightness he treated his staff with. The way he serenaded in his wife’s ears. These values, he built; like his family, his business, his community. Relentlessly, passionately. Unconditionally. Never letting go, always flowing with Life, no matter what.

One Wednesday evening, we had dinner under the porch, watching the sun set over the countless pine trees. We were talking about how much he had done for his family, and the terrible events that punctuated his lifetime. He said to me: “We know what we’ve seen, but we don’t know what we can see.” What he meant by that, is that we get to choose our path. That we walk our path, and despite that, there might be things we wished we could have done otherwise. That the possibilities we’re not aware of are infinite, hiding behind the curtain. We know the curtain is hiding the view, but still, we do not attempt to glance through it. Because of what? Because we are afraid to feel the warmth of the sun on our skin.

There is so much we do in our Life, or let’s say, that we think we do. There are things we plan to do, there are things we plan not to do, and there are things we never get to find the time to do. Life happens only in this moment, and each moment, we make a decision. Glued together, these stretched now moments of times, become our Life. Time goes by, years happen, and one day, we wake up, and it’s too late. Because we get diagnosed with a terminal illness, because we’ve lost everyone around us, or because we never gave our heart a chance to feel the Light.

Life is not easy, trust me. Life is freaking hard. With its ups and downs, with its winding roads, detours, and road blocks. With its nasty characters, persona non grata, soulless beings. But Life does not create itself as such. We do create that for ourselves. Seeing the glass half empty is a choice. Considering others as enemies is a choice. Being a victim of our personal story is a choice. As well as living in the past, feeling stuck in the present, and not projecting into the future.

As a marathon runner, my dear patient step foot in many countries, and ran countless times around the earth. He had the occasion to run to the finish line, or to give up. Giving up for him was not an option. He kept running. He kept breaking his personal best, and continued to race until the end. He has had countless now moments of times. He had used them appropriately, so much so, that many souls will mourn him and his legacy for years to come.

We are Life. Each moment. We make Life, our Life, in each passing moment. We embody what we believe to be fair, what we believe we think we deserve, what we believe is our path. My patient chose to believe in Life. In Goodness. In Love. What he harvested in return was so, so much more.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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The way forward is backwards

Howdy! It’s been a few long months of silence on this blog, and it has been for a simple reason: I did not have time. Add awkward timely cough right here. Well, the real reason is, I did not make time for this blog, because I was busy with other things. I get a lot of joy writing this blog, and my goal while doing so is to

1. Express my creativity through writing

2. Bring value to people

3. Put myself out there

Because I did not write for a few months, I kind of beat myself up, that I SHOULD do it. I should write every day, and have awesome blog ideas and content. But the truth is, I was putting a lot of pressure on myself. Now coming up with the excuses, I went on vacay a bit and caught up with family, and got busy with work. Some days being out and about for 13 hours straight. Alright, alright, not an excuse. I can sniff all the hustlers out there, who, if they read this, will tell me that there is no excuses to have, and that I should have written an article EVERY.SINGLE.DAY like I promised myself in the beginning.

But I realised something: force does not go well with me. Apart from the fact that I’m a Pisces and that I spend most of my time in the stars somewhere, I do not function like that. I used to, and it used to drain the s**t out of me.

There is a distinction to make between having healthy, constructive habits, and forcing yourself to do something for the wrong reasons. It all depends how we function. Some people might tell you that they punish themselves with no food and distraction in a blank room in the middle of the forest, in order to find ideas and to get creativity rolling. I don’t believe in that. The more I prime myself to create a piece of art and unbelievably awesome content, the more resistance I create within myself, trying to be someone I’m not and creating something that is not within my reach at this precise moment.

In my case, writing a post every single day is sometimes not possible, because I simply don’t have the time or energy for it. I told myself I would do it just to get into the momentum, and to gain muscle memory. Which worked, for a month. But I started to resent writing a blog (I know, after one month, what a wonderful story of resilience) because on top of my job and my Life, it was too much.

Now that I’m in a much lighter space through awareness of the situation, I have decided not to take the foot off the pedal, but to get back to it with a different energy. That of expressing my creativity with ease. I have deciding to stick to the constructive habit of writing at least 3 times a week, and if I decide to write more some weeks, I will do it.

I think creativity comes when we feel relaxed with ourselves and our Life, and when we expect it the less. For example, I get inspired when I drive, or when I meditate, or when I exercise. How convenient it is to scribble some awesome idea on a piece of paper right in the middle of a dolphin pose, you tell me. But this is how it works within me.

Many times in Life, we believe that once we acquire a skill or a habit, things will only go up. But this is just a story of the mind, that is so used to analyzing everything to make sure we’re safe.

Life, Flow, happen like a wave. Up and down. Upwards and Downwards. Forward and Backwards. This is evolution. This is how it works. There cannot possibly be an evolution if things constantly remain the same, meaning always up. Everything that goes up has to come down, and vice versa.

While our mind feels like it’s doing Space Mountain at Disney World and starts sticking its nails into our neighbour’s forearm, our soul knows that we are just right where we are supposed to, and that it is necessary for us to welcome what we judge as ups and downs. This is all part of the process.

In my case, without the up of writing every day, I would have not been able to experience the down of not writing at all, and would have not had the realization that I was missing writing and expressing myself through this medium. Feeling the ups and downs of Life is a mandatory procedure, to enable them to wash us off without damage. Letting them pass by, noticing them, and deciding whether or not this is what we wish for ourselves and our Life. If that’s all it takes, I’m all in for it.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline.

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A letter

Dear living beings,

I’ve been on this Earth for 36 years so far, and I had my fair share of Life experiences.

In my family, we experienced intergenerational traumas like in many other families. We also went through arguments, crisis, life attempts, addictions. Not much talking, mostly repressed emotions. Our Life energy was mostly channeling lower states of vibration, and not much used to serve the greatest good. It was more about survival and going on with Life than anything else.

Through my Life experiences, I’ve met fantastic people. I’ve met horrible people. I’ve met living, and already dying beings. I’ve met people focused on themselves so much that they hurt others. I’ve met people so selfless that they forgot about themselves.

I’ve met narcissists, heavily depressed, schizophrenic, traumatized people.

I’ve met joyful, strong, cancer survivors, war veterans, full of Life, optimistic, humorous people.

I’ve smelled the fumes of factories, heard people yelling and arguing after a late concert, witnessed someone end their Life, and experienced the tragedy or terrorism in my country of origin.

I’ve encountered Mother Earth many times. I’ve met loving street doggos and spoiled indoor cats. I’ve witnessed creatures that seemed to be taken straight out of Jurassic Park.

I’ve seen Mother Nature paint the clouds with pink shades on a cosy Sunday evening. I’ve seen the most incredible sunset on the Baltic Sea.

I’ve listened to the song of the waves in the early morning in Byron Bay. I’ve listened to the squeaky sound of very fine sand under my steps on an untouched beach.

I’ve seen penguins sliding on their bellies, reindeers minding their own business while shedding their bloodied antlers, monkeys chasing tourists, or a snake having lunch in someone’s backyard.

I’ve heard the wind whistling in the trees, felt the sun on my skin at a memorial building, smelled the fragrance of flowers at the botanical gardens, contemplated a shooting star on the night of my birthday.

I’ve shared true moments of connection with living beings and Gaia, as well as experienced true moments of disconnection and disharmony with them both.

Despite all of that, we still make a distinction between “good” and “bad”, friendly or non-friendly, acceptable and non-acceptable behaviors. People pretend they love one another, but they do not hesitate to find themselves in the energy of hatred when an event does not fit with “reality”.

Where are we going here? Do we want to spend our energy fighting with one another, and keep running in circles, or do we want to improve the world we live in, to give ourselves the most precious gift there is, Love?

We all come from Mother Earth, and we all make the distinction being the beauty of Nature and the diverse nature of Human Beings. Because we don’t see the true connection between all of us, the unbreakable bond with each other, we tend to believe in separation.

We all come from the stars, from the core of The Universe. Mother Earth has welcomed us on her soil and on we are her guests on this planet. She will be there long enough, while we will be gone in a minute.

Could we all focus instead on what we all share, the unity that entertains our beauty and true nature?

A few years ago, I decided to choose Love over fear. I decided that I owe myself Life, and I also owe it to others. There is no other way than to live a peaceful and meaningful Life.

Every second. we get to choose. Which one do we prefer?

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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Love - Part 1

There is this question that we often hear about Love. What is it? How it is understood? It cannot be described or intellectually defined. It can only be experienced. These days, with the current atmosphere that people feel is happening in the world, it is hard for some of us to feel Love. I disagree with that. Because Love is present at every moment. It cannot be destroyed, or suppressed by external forces. It never dies.

Below are ten definitions of what love is. This is the part 1 of a series about Love.

1)Love is embracing the present moment for what it is.

2)Love is treating ourselves right.

3)Love is treating others right.

4)Love is respect.

5)Love is being vulnerable.

6)Love is seeing we’ve screwed up, and are still ok with being ourselves.

7)Love is giving ourselves permission to feel.

8)Love is us speaking our Truth in a crowd of naysayers.

9)Love is our ability to say no.

10)Love is caring for our parents when we are busy with Life.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

Caroline Pont 4/21/25 Caroline Pont 4/21/25

What are my options?

There are so many options we can choose from in this lifetime.

Let’s take the place we live in. We can choose to live in our birth country, to move overseas, to travel every year, or go around the block on the weekend.

We can choose to be single, to live with a partner, to get married, to be in a monogamous or polyamorous relationship.

We can choose to not have children, to have children with our partner, to have children with our marriage companion, to have children on our own, to have children through surrogacy, to adopt children.

There are so many options in Life. We live in a world that requires a thought, then an action to get a result. Things don’t just fall from the sky. They are always happening due to us making a conscious, or unconscious choice.

Where we are in Life now, is a result of our actions. Whatever we’ve done before in our Life, got us here and there. It got us in this country, in this job, in this family, in this financial situation.

Take working out, for example, or the lack thereof. We work out, we eat well, we pay attention to our macros and calories, we train hard. The longer we perform this routine, the longer we will experience optimal health. The absence of these actions does not lead there.

The more we entertain something, the more we get of it. The more we entertain a behavior, the longer we’ll behave in such a way that either pleases us or does not.

When we don’t take responsibility for what we’ve created, we always tend to go for the big thing in the wrong areas of our Life. We go hard on the wrong side of the wall. We get busy with stuff that does not matter, and we expect that things will change. We start a spring cleaning instead of working on our new business idea. We go grocery shopping instead of implementing a new financial plan. We talk to our bestie about how wrong our ex-partner was, instead of withdrawing within ourselves to look at our faults. We look at the wrong spots, instead of truly getting back to the main character in our Life: ourselves.

Whenever something goes wrong in our Life, we must acknowledge that we have been created it ourselves.

I agree, there are so very difficult Life situations, that people go through every day. They go through genocides, through wars, through personal traumas. Those are facts. When we can get out of a situation, we do so. When we can’t, we find the resources within.

So many of us are enduring Life as if there is no option to move forward. We get stuck in the past, thinking that God is going to save us. And so we pray, pray, pray, that God will remove the obstacle, while we do not move an inch or still entertain the same unhealthy behaviors.

Praying is actually very efficient, but some people understand it the wrong way.

God always hears us, even when we talk to him in our head. What I love with prayers is that it is not really about God hearing us, but about what we put out there, and acknowledging ourselves, by hearing it from us. By talking about it to The Creator/The Universe, we are actually realizing the intention for ourselves to move forward. It is a great reminder for us to have those dialogues with the Divine, to be consciously aware of what we are asking, experiencing, and demanding. This is not something on the outside that will change our Life. When we have enough, or when we are driven by a higher cause, we will shift inwards, and things will start changing in the outside. God always listens.

Being stuck in the old energy of familiarity is one of the most dangerous experiences in Life. Because when we are, we do not take accountability, we stay in our comfort zone, and we don’t seek anything else. Life is made to seek what we feel inside, on the outside. It’s simply a game of energy. We can give ourselves the gift of abundance, by making the decision to do so.

Right NOW.

By authorizing ourselves to experience a different Life situation, a fulfilling job, a healthy romantic partner, a financial stability. The way out of trauma is so simple. We simply stop repeating the story to ourselves. Acknowledging what we went through, and move on. I would say, move up, instead of move on, Moving up to a higher timeline, to better standards for ourselves. This small piece of us we call mind does not have to dictate our Life. Those decisions are deeply personal and, unless we experience it ourselves, by feeling the contrast, we will never have the answer. It takes planning and requires to be practical, but it’s worth it to find out the infinite possibilities in this Life. We are always free, no matter what.

Our mind’s job is not to understand and analyze and find solutions, it is to be present in the now, and act accordingly. We will then be directed towards ways to reach our dreams, or better our Life, or whatever it might be, at every moment. If our response has always been the same, how can we react differently?

It is by seeking discomfort that we embody our Truth.

We must be very much aware of how we function and what we want from this Life. Knowing ourselves by feeling everything we have swept under the rug and walked away from.

Working with people who are close to Death made me realize how tiny we are and how less time we think we have. It’s up to us to decide how long we want to experience this portion of Life. How do we want to contribute to ourselves? How do we want to express ourselves? How do we create? How do we interact with Mother Earth and human Beings in a way that is contributing to the collective?

Instead of settling for fear, struggle, hurt, pain, suffering, why don’t we decide to settle for harmony, ease, compassion, fulfillment, pure love? When we make that decision, there is no other option for our inner world to change, and it will change the relationship we entertain with every living being, for the best.

How do you want to live your Life?

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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Validation, our ticket to freedom

Howdy! Caroline here again. Because I was unable to post yesterday, I am posting two articles today.

Today’s (second) article is about validation. It is kind of similar to the previous one, but I feel this is a subject that we place the focus on outwards a lot, without really understanding and processing it internally. Here’s my take on it then.

When we talk about validation, we are usually referring to as being in our own power. Such as “we don’t need to get validated from others, we are just doing our thing, and screw everyone who is going to make us feel like we shouldn’t.” The emphasis is muchly on others, while the focus should remain on ourselves. It is always defined as a reactive behavior from us regarding others, instead of the expansion we should experience, that stems from our primary intention at the beginning.

Validation comes from our inner Being. It comes from the root, the core of us. It comes from this indestructible energy that we call soul, consciousness, or whatever we may name it depending on our beliefs or religion or philosophy.

We cannot harm our validation, we cannot transform it. It’s been with us all along, and is not supposed to change.

Except when we are not grounded in our Truth enough, we place it on the outside, through our attention. We expect others to carry it for us, to speak to us about it, and to give it to us as a trophy, a reward for abiding by their rules and their understanding of reality with us as a character in their movie, and not our own.

Take social media, for example. I think it’s a great tool to enhance communication between people from different parts of the world, but this tool can be dysregulated and transformed into a pitiful, begging instrument for attention. Showing off amazing lives, living in Dubai and carrying a 12K leather bag while on a cruise with the girlies, is awesome. Good for them.

But why is there a need to show off our lives in such as way? Because we are competing with others on a subsconcious level. Let me take some awesome pics, put them on social media, and show the entire world that I live a comfortable material Life, drinking champagne on a boat with my friends, while you are behind your screen being triggered by my stories. This is a desperate attempt for validation. The person posting stuff is wanting to receive something from others, while the person watching the stories and the post is also looking for a way to validate themselves, or in this case, to unvalidate themselves, and not being “good” enough because the norm has been set to such a degree that, if I don’t meet those social media standards of living a similar Life, I’m a loser.

Let’s pause here for a second. Everything in this world is energy. Have we ever wondered what kind of interaction we place ourselves in, with one another? Have we ever wondered what vibration we emit when we talk to somebody? The real nature of our interaction is not what we talk about, or what we do during this interaction, or how we dress.

The true core of our interaction with the other person is what we emit as a way of Being. If we emit a scarcity vibration, the other person feels our envy or jealousy, or any other scarce trait. If we emit our natural state of being, we emit peace, presence, and that, is when true interconnectedness with others start for real. That’s the true nature of our interactions with one another. That’s what it is supposed to be. It doesn’t take any effort from us.

Let’s take another life situation. Let’s imagine we are a fairly good looking and single human, who has always had success in romantic interactions. Now that we are single, and that we are working on our stuff, we feel pretty happy with ourselves. Let’s observe the nature of our interactions with the sex we prefer. We walk on the street, and we decide to go to this new expo in town. The expo is about travel, one of our favorite topics. We get there, mind our own business, without paying too much attention to other humans around us. Now let’s say that there is a documentary being screened, and presented for the occasion by the producer. We always love a good documentary so we wait in line to watch it. We notice that the producer seems cute, smart, and knows their subject.

We enter the room and now we start having those thoughts in our head. Not thoughts that we received from The Universe, but actual, real thoughts that we assimilate to our limited human self and our conditioning.

“Oh, they are charming, seem to have their shit together, and look good.”

“Oh, I know I’m good-looking, I definitely have a shot with them.”

“Oh, what if this person could change my Life?”

And so, we start spiralling onto those schemes of thoughts. We know we’ve been working on our stuff, talking to a health professional, and performed many other tricks to heal our stuff. But now, this is another hidden form of craving validation from others. Because by thinking those thoughts, and entertaining a possibility of something with this person, we are subconsciously wanting something from them, and this is validation we are expecting.

As long as we’ll feel this way, pretending we are not looking, going on with our Life, and still hoping or creating an energy around a situation we’re in, we are expecting. And this is not unconditional living, this is not helping us reach higher timelines.

Validation prevents us from full being in our power. Validation is in the low levels of the energy scale, meaning that it is not expanding us, it is actually shrinking us from the outside.

We believe we are constantly facing situations where we must “fight” or prove ourselves. But as everything comes from within us according to our beliefs followed by our actions about ourselves, we will never find peace and thrive if we place our energy on this one thing on the outside that we think would be the solace to our freedom.

I want to be clear on the fact that of course, we can picture ourselves with a dream partner, or have a beautiful home, family, or fulfilling our projects successfully. What I’m talking about here is the core of the project. The energy that we place onto it at the first place. The first thought about our desire came in, probably neutral, and the energy that we entertain every time we consciously work or focus on it should be carefully watched out for. Is it coming from a desire to be validated, or from a place of genuine peace? There is a fine line between having projects, goals, desires; and creating the story by rearranging the walls to calm our validation cravings that we think will make us whole and complete.

Placing our worth on a situation, a person, a project, does not help expand as a human being. If we wish to thrive and experience Life in the most miraculous way possible, one of the core values that we should embody is to be ready to step away from any thought, situation or person.

We cannot “get” or “possess” anything, because everything we need has already been written in our soul. As we can’t get them, they also cannot harm us when we lose them.

We are here as humans to experience the Life we want, and if we want to place our worth, our validation on something or someone on the outside, so be it. We are playing this role. If we are tired of this role, we can rewrite the stories here and now, by simply letting go of our need of validation by this thing, person, or situation. Validation is the ego at work, because it does not feel safe. Like I said my previous article about reactivity and expansion, when we do not abide by the regular standards of getting our needs met by the outside world, what is left with us? Peace, presence, and unconditional love for ourselves and others.

We can’t break free from an outside shell. We can only break free from the inner shell, the box we’ve trapped our human in, locked ourselves in, without food and water. We have a torch, though, and that is our soul. It lights up everything that we need; it shows us the way out, such as the keys in our pocket, or the fact that our dear ego did not lock the box at the first place. It’s only up to us to see the signs before the battery runs out.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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Reactivity or expansion?

These days, there are many paths we can walk choose to walk on in our own timeline. Hundreds of years ago, people did not have much choice. They were all breadwinners, and they did not have a chance to be unemployed or to be reflecting on their path. These days, these times, we experience both. Either the hustling part of Life, being in the rat race, going for a career, going for a project, a dream home, a family, touring around the world. Or taking time to wander, to be in our own body, or for most of us, in our mind. We take on a trip in our mind. Why do we go for a mushroom or an Ayahuascan trip while we have our own minds to take us to heights of imagination? Just kidding here, of course. But back then, people did not have as many options as we do now, or at least, they did not have the chance to know about the many options we know now.

Today’s post is about reactivity and expansion.

We know that everything that is happening in our Life is experienced through the projector of our own mind. Whatever is thrown at us is not that we created it by ourselves only, it’s been a dance between us and The Universe, and we live and embody it through the lens of our own mind.

Let’s take the example of a friend who secured a very successful business deal and made a huge amount of money. When we see that, it triggers some of us. It feels to us that some people have it easy, while (and now our ego starts talking) we’re struggling. We react, feel jealous, envious, and feel miserable for ourselves. Reaction comes from ego, from survival. It’s a defense mechanism that internalizes what we project out there, and it usually shows us there is something here that must be worked on.

It’s all good to react. Let’s not blame ourselves for reacting, it’s a precious gift. When we react, we shrink ourselves. When we react to reacting, I’ll let you guess. The good news about it, is that we can experience a better timeline, by learning from our reactivity. I want every single person reading this article to try that in their Life, next time they react. To observe themselves in a loving and compassionate way, and to feel it fully. What does this reaction feel like in your body? Ask your mind to take a break for 5 min, and observe, feel the sensations. What does that feel like? Does that feel like tension, like headaches, like a heavy stomach? Does that feel like stress, anxiety, tightness?

It's a good sign. Let’s embrace those reactions. There are showing us the way out, the way how traumas talk to us.

On the other hand, the opposite to reactivity is expansion. When the same situation arises, and we feel fully in our power, we experience it with curiosity, with ease, as part of the natural flow of Life. We experience it as meant to happen, and as an opportunity to grow. Because we are at ease with ourselves, we do not judge, we are happy for the positive outcome that our friend has experienced, and we celebrate them as well as Life, fully present in the moment.

Expansion is the language of our soul, when we are grounded in our Truth and in our power. We are not looking, we are not wanting, we are just being. We naturally register and learn what we need to learn from a situation, and we carry on with our day not being attached to what happened to them or what did not happen to us. We are simply flowing with Life.

In this state, we make one with The Universe, and we are fully in receptive mode. All the blessings are drawn to us, we make the right choices for our soul, and it feels effortless. This, is our natural state of Being. This is the way we are supposed to live our Life. But because we cling onto stories, onto traumas, onto past experiences that we’ve made as defining us as humans beings, it feels impossible to be in that state. Bear in mind that it is absolutely normal to experience both reactivity and expansion in our Life. The more we work on ourselves, and the more we will be able to experience fewer moments of reactivity and numerous moments of expansion.

We cling onto our previous Life experiences, as if we had been labelled as a victim of this experience, and since, we have been wearing the costume of this role every single day. We don’t even take it out at night, we go to bed with it. In the morning, we get up, and the costume is there, intact and shiny as ever on our shoulders. We shower with it, we have breakfast with it, we go to work with it, we go to the gym with it. With the costume, come the glasses through which our mind focuses that keeps telling ourselves and others the story of our experience.

The stories that we create around it, are coming from our mind. Hang on a second, where do they come from again? From our inner world. So, they must be true, right? When we listen to our mind, thoughts show up. How do they show up? They are based on what we have experienced and been believing about ourselves. But what if we start rebelling, and question them? Wouldn’t it be wonderful? Wouldn’t it be scary? Oh, I’m starting to shake just reading this, some of you might say. Because it feels so much work to open the door to a new possibility, let it be a possibility of living without our favorite costume that we’ve been taking care of, washing, ironing, sewing back on, for a long time.

Our thoughts are either based on reactivity, or expansion. Which ones come to us? Which ones are the most prevalent in our head? Which ones feel safe? Because safety is so personal, an unsafe thought might be terrible for another person. But because the costume is on, we don’t have a choice, we must feel safe in that belief. Is is really true we don’t have a choice?

There is no judgement to have for ourselves, or for others, to think this way or to not like the costume we wear, or others wear. It fits us, there’s none like the other. Judging others means that we also judge ourselves in our own process of Life. Judging emphasizes the separation that we’ve all been entertaining as a collective consciousness from the beginnings of time.

As we are all creating our hero’s journey moment after moment, what are we deciding for ourselves, and for the collective? To wear the cape of reactivity, or expansion?

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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The journey of escapism

Escapism’s definition is as follows: performing an action or a behavior in order to escape reality. It acts as a Life buoy; like a Savior.

The first idea that comes to find when we think about it is addictions. Addictions to a substance: drugs, alcohol, tobacco, medicinal drugs. Those are pretty obvious for most people, and are highly regarded as bad to the eyes of the general population. When we see an intoxicated person on the street, we are quick to judge them.

Other forms of escapism also include more “tolerable” behaviors such as overeating, gambling, scratch cards, porn, shopping, video games, scrolling on social media. Those we do, and we don’t think much of it. It’s part of our routine and it’s considered “normal” because it seems acceptable and is not labelled as bad compared to drugs or alcohol.

There are also subtle forms of escapism: chasing a romantic partner or looking for “the one” at every corner, hanging out with “friends” that are in fact toxic people that do not lift us up, stories we create in our mind, clinging onto an event that happened a long time ago, our attachment to pain, to suffering, to scarcity. Those forms of escapism are definitely not seen as such. They are considered genuine human needs for connection, loyalty towards others, or traits of character we are born with.

Escapism can also be found in “healthy” actions: working out, working a lot, family gatherings, dieting, and so on. There is a fine line between working out every single day to get results, or working out every single day because we do not validate ourselves the way we are now. There is a fine line between working a lot because we love our job, or working 24/7 because we do not wish to confront our loneliness. There is a fine line between spending time with our family to create healthy relationships and memories and spending every day with them and neglecting our partner and our love life. There is a fine line between dieting strictly every day, and not enjoying street food while on a trip.

Not all forms are created equal. We judge others for experiencing more serious forms of addictions, and we find it normal to spend two hours on Instagram before we sleep. We judge a homeless man for being high on the street, believing he should have his shit together and get a job, while we never condone our three course meal from our favorite fast-food chain three times a week. We judge our female friend in her thirties for living the van life and being single without attachment, while we do not realize how we have been manipulating our partner to meeting our emotional cravings and validating our ego.

When we experience escapism, we think that we are very much in control. The opposite is true. We are not, and because we are not tuned in to ourselves, to what really feels right to us, we use something on the outside to avoid confrontation and accountability.

I agree that our society contributes to our unhealthy habits of escapism: tobacco or lately, vaping, the latest fashion trend from luxury retailers, nutrient-poor foods. Apps or websites, or streaming platforms, want us to spend as much time as possible with them. By doing so, we trap ourselves, spend the most precious resource we have on them (time), and we don’t give ourselves the right drink to fill up our cup.

Escapism acts as a coping mechanism, because our reality is too painful. By coping with an addiction, we avoid looking at our stuff and feel the pain. Some coping mechanisms appear to be nothing, but in the long run, they matter. Because we decide what we put in our body, mind and what we experience from it. We all wish happiness in this world, despite what people do or say. We are all aiming at living a comfortable Life. And because we do not remember our potential, our infinite power, and have forgotten our Light, we cope with low vibrational states of Being. Why? Because it is much easier than confronting our shit. These behaviors feels like a complete declaration of war to ourselves. We must look at them from a place of non-judgement; observe them without attaching to the story we’ve created around them in our mind. This process is one of the many processes to be used to get to know ourselves.

If we decide to be true to ourselves, we will feel in disharmony with escapism. We will experience pain and misalignment. Let’s be compassionate with ourselves and always feel our pain and suffering as feedback we are not heading in the right direction.

It’s important to take the time to reflect on why we entertain these behaviors. Let’s think about how we got to believe what we believe about ourselves. When did this start? Has someone said something that we took at face value, because they were an authority of some sort? Why do we binge on Netflix at night, without stopping? Why do we binge on fast food after a hard day at work? Why do we use? Some people are so deep in pain that they will tell us that they do drugs simply because they like it. It takes a lot of work and will to learn our why. There is always a why in every one of our actions followed by positive or negative consequences.

It’s worth mentioning that escapism is part of the process in our journey of healing our stuff and confronting our reality. We are constantly changing; some times feel tougher than others. Some moments are more joyful. As humans, to feel too much can be unbearable sometimes. When our inner system crashes, we try to numb it. It’s all part of the process. We all go through that several times in our Lives, and like everything else, this too shall pass.

When it comes to other people, let’s remember that we cannot save them. They can only save themselves. Trying to do the work that others need to do, and experience it within themselves, is not our role. We cannot put their hand on the steering wheel. It’s a proof of unconditional love to let them walk the path themselves.

When it comes to us, the path of escapism can feel lonely and scary, but if we want to elevate and live a fulfilling Life, we must overcome those patterns. The solution we are looking for is already out there. Some other human has already lived a similar story to ours. The solution is not what, but when. When are we decided to find it? When are we ready to walk the path, and feed ourselves with healthier behaviors, actions, beliefs? When we look at that with honesty, nothing or no one can prevent us from succeeding. Nothing can tell us we are wrong, because we have to digest it, to feel it in our core and use this resonance to embody our higher Self. The solution is out there, the state of Being is ours. Everything that we are looking for is already inside of us. It only takes a yes to Life.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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Endurance as a bridge

I had a significant dream last night about endurance. My definition of endurance is as follows: the bridge between survival and greatness.

This is something I’ve struggled with with for a long, long time in my Life. There are times in Life when things are going smoothly, we are over the moon, and everything seems simple. When we feel that way, we are in this very positive emotional state of Being, and whatever we do, or anybody we encounter turns into a joyful moment.

There are other times, when things seem not to go smoothly, we feel low, helpless, lonely, and we don’t see how we can get out of this “problem”. Like I mentioned in my previous post, there are no problem, just wrong definitions and beliefs. But still, this does not remove the discomfort we experience during this time.

When we feel that way, days are dragging, long and dark, and we wonder why we have to go through that. For us, it seems like this is something happening to us. As we know, things are always happening for us, not to us.

We start questioning everything. Ourselves, our commitments, our community, our dedication to an activity, our workout, our relationships. Are we heading in the right, or wrong direction? Are we flowing with Life? Are we following the plan?

When those states of Being arise, we tend to look for a quick way out. We redirect our energy to fight or flight, and we are looking at escaping the situation straight away like a caveman that would be facing a sabre tooth tiger. We don’t pause; we rush. Rushing is never a good option.

When we feel that way, we also look for a reason to live. What are the things that would make me worthy of living our Life? We search for it; we look for it on the outside. Anything. Like a house in the forest in the middle of nowhere. A heart connection with a partner. A healthy and sane family. A marathon. A trip to our dream destination. They are all legit.

We also look for a reason worth dying for. What would we do in our lives that would make us forget everything, except for this one thing that is worth dying for? This one thing that obliterates everything around us that we must absolutely fulfill? Could it be what we call purpose?

Life is a long road made of detours, roadblocks, and various encounters. Endurance is like a muscle that kicks in to keep propelling the momentum forward. This primal energy that guides us to move forward that comes from the depths of our Being. With that, we have the power to endure anything as human beings.

When our circumstances are hard, we must act with endurance, with patience, with courage. Knowing everything is impermanent and nothing lasts, we are aiming at doing the best we can, always with a mindset that allows us to see ourselves in the future. We don’t know HOW, but it will happen, It could take weeks, months or years, it will happen, because we keep showing up every single day. And when we show up every day, this is endurance. When we decide to confront our deepest fears, our suffering, this is endurance. Viktor Frankl talks about it in his book Man’s Search for Meaning, that when we are stripped away from everything we believed was acquired, endurance keeps us sane and propels us towards our greater purpose of Being.

When we are confronted with a tough situation, within ourselves or on the outside, we should know that this is an opportunity to reach a higher timeline and to never go back to what we did not prefer. The real work does not starts when everything is going well in our Life. It actually starts when things get dark, when we feel unease, uncertainty. This is when endurance shows up, and we must take it and use it as a powerful weapon to cross the river, go through the waves, and make it to land safely. When we use this, there is nothing to be afraid of anymore, because we know that no matter what, we’ve trained for a whole lifetime already.

Some people around us will be afraid, jealous or envious by our endurance, and this is not something we need to worry about. By moving forward no matter what, making the conscious choice to not entertain fear and to embody our Truth, we’ll be sending a powerful message out there that we’re heading towards greatness.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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Manifesting or letting go?

I was listening to a podcast this morning, and it gave me this idea of writing about manifestation. There are heaps of articles and information on the topic, so I’m not here to convey a different idea about it. It’s my take, so feel free to comment below and share yours.

Our universe is made of energy. Every single atom that the universe is made of, is a piece of energy. They are in constant motion, vibrating at a very high pace. As humans, we have a body that is made of atoms. We are also made of the universal energy, that is the beginning and end of everything.

Every human, plant, animal, living thing is made of it. At our core, we all own a specific vibrational frequency. This is what we are made of under all the layers of skin and atoms. See it like a burning fire. The fire is burning, but what is at the core of it? The embers. Our true nature is to be the embers, if you wish to imagine so. Our core vibrational frequency radiates our own energy, at every moment, every second, and always has since the beginning of times. Remember we are made of the same energy found in the universe, the plants, the animals, the rain, the stars. We are always emitting a frequency, no matter what our mind says. The mind is not in charge unless we want it to be. The mind came later, when we were able to start making decisions and think on our own. Our true self is made of pure energy, of infinite possibilities. Good or bad do not exist, they are part of this “field” of gigantic energy that encompasses all.

Manifestation is such a big word in my opinion. It feels like we can play God and get whatever we want without consequences. Well, it’s true, and it’s not. I’ll come back to it later.

When it comes to manifesting, or attracting, since we naturally vibrate everything that we desire (it’s a natural law in this universe), everything that vibrates our frequency matches our frequency. Meaning, those things are meant for us, and us only. There is no lack, no “this thing will not manifest into my Life and will manifest in my neighbor’s”, or “I don’t know if I’m manifesting properly.” It’s just impossible. Because our energy is always expressing itself, talking, it is constantly writing the book of our Life.

Some things we manifest very easily. And some other things seem more difficult to get. Why is that? It’s not that we do not know how to manifest, it is simply that our definitions and beliefs of how things are/should be are holding these desires away. You see, we don’t need to try hard. We just need to look at ourselves clearly and ask ourselves what definitions we entertain in our lives about the things we do not prefer. Ask ourselves what beliefs we are holding onto, that are hindering those wonderful desires to get to us. Manifestation is effortless, because it only requires a natural state, a natural flow. When we involve the mind in the process (through definitions and beliefs), this is when the trouble begins. We are meant to receive everything we want; it’s part of our true nature.

Everything that we think, believe in or define ourselves with, always leaves an energetical trail. The more we place our intention on it, the more we feed it, and the more we receive that. That’s the reality of Life. Another point I want to make is that, there is no rush. If we do not know what we want, because we never experienced it before, we do not need to force ourselves onto it. We just need to observe our definitions about it and let go of that definition. We can surely reinforce our desire by visualizing us in this situation or using positive affirmations, but more as a way to convince our mind. Because the universal mind is always feeling our way of Being so it does not need that. As long as we become aware of the opposite belief (if there is one) attached to it, our desire will be drawn to us. See it as if there was a wall between us and the desire, and that wall is made of a belief about it.

Here, we need to use kindness and compassion for ourselves, because what we believe is true about ourselves usually never comes from us. It comes from a family pattern, from an idea of the society, from a self-defence mechanism due to a previous experience we had in our Life that we’ve made so big in our awareness that now, it feels impossible for us to “manifest” that. There are no problems in Life, just wrong definitions and beliefs about ourselves. It always comes down to us, no matter what.

We must let go of what we don’t prefer, and allow the light in, the things meant for us. There is no lack at all coming from outside of ourselves, just coming from us. Because we have this core vibrational frequency that is given to one specific body (us, our human), we must enjoy this wonderful gift and make sure we make the right decision.

Something some of us might not want to hear, is that there are consequences to what we wish for ourselves and others in our Life. When we wish something for us that will harm others, we will attract the same effect in our Life. It can be instantaneous, or it will come later on. It’s the law of cause and effect, and it is always at work. It always comes back to us. If we steal from somebody, someone will steal from us. If we cheat on somebody, we’ll be cheated on. Then, it only depends on us, to align our values with our desires. What are the values we abide by, and what is the intention behind it? Why do we want to attract this specific outcome in our Life? If it’s ego-based, it will feel off. If it’s soul-based, we’ll feel expansive. To get to that point, it takes a lot of inner work, as we would have guessed.

Know thyself is one of the most powerful advice ever received. If we don’t look inwards, at our repetitive patterns, actions, thought process, we will never be able to reframe and get what we wish for. There’s a duality in each of us (except for the people who have transcended their humanness and who have leveled up their game so much that they don’t even feel like humans anymore) and we need to address that if we wish to live the Life we’ve pictured for ourselves.

So in a sense, we can play God. We have the ability to create everything we have wished for. Every single object existing in this Universe has started from a thought. And there is also the fact that we must let go and let The Universe guide us towards our greater good. It’s a balance of vibing what we authorize ourselves to be and have, and also surrendering to whatever The Universe has in store for us. It’s most likely greater than what we could ever imagine for ourselves.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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What do you expect?

When we wake up tired in the morning, and that we have a long list to tick before and after work, and that we don’t have the energy to get it done, we are resisting.

When we are stuck in traffic and we get angry, we are resisting.

When we get rejected by our partner and we disagree, we are resisting.

We should be up and running all the time, running against all odds. Sometimes it works, some other times it doesn’t. We must be able to recognize when to push through, or when to be guided.

It’s funny how ego gets in gear straight away. The feelings that show up at that time are most likely anger or unfairness. Because in our mind, it should not happen this way. In our mind, the scenario has been written differently. In our mind, we win. Always.

This resistance to Life, to what is, is one of the most beautiful gifts we can ever receive. While we experience a specific situation at this now moment, we resist, and so we suffer. Why? Because we are not flowing in harmony with what our Being is saying to us. It goes one way, and we wanna go the other way.

This obviously does not mean that we should not plan, or make conscious choices for ourselves. We do so, and then, whatever happens, is out of our control. We have a responsibility for our Life. We are in charge. We are the main character. And not facing reality by ignoring the conditions of our misery, ignoring the conditions of the consequences of the actions we decide to take or not take, is hard to swallow, if we don’t understand that.

Living our Life is accepting, with an open heart, that whatever is given to us was meant for us.

Who are we to play God? Who are we to say “this should happen this way?”, or “I should not have to go through that?”

Because what we think is meant for us is sometimes not meant for us. When we think of a situation we could benefit from, is maybe unlikely to happen. We are not in charge of the big picture. God/The Universe/The Creator is. And when we bathe and relax into that, we make Life a much more pleasant experience.

When we are stuck in a loop of narrow-mindedness, we see our Life through this lens of certainty, while the only certainty in Life is change. We cannot control that.

We spend so much time making sense of the known, while the unknown happens at every moment. At every second, we step into it. What do we know about our day? That we’ll follow our usual schedule, and that nothing is supposed to happen. No misery, no miracle. No Life then? When we expect to not expect, it prevents us from receiving greater experiences.

I was talking to a patient of mine yesterday. Her family had gone a hard Life, and recently events took a turn for the worse. While mentioning the loss of their child years ago, she said to me: “I don’t know the answer, but this was supposed to happen.” When I asked her how she managed to go through this, she said to me “I know my Life does not belong to me, it belongs to God. I don’t attach to anything, because they are not mine. I will not take stuff or people with me when I meet up with God.”

She was expressing what the sages have spent years teaching: accepting the reality for what it is. And surrendering to the big picture while holding our head high and respecting the process.

Steve Jobs was saying that we can only connect the dots when looking backwards. One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is to realize that when we attach to certainty, to wanting to know absolutely how things are going to work out for us, we go against our natural state of Being and the energies at work in the universe. This must be let go of, in order to embrace our true purpose.

Let’s remind ourselves that our state of awareness in the present is dependent on how far we’ll come in the future.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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Mind your own business

Have you ever wondered why sometimes, we feel exhilarated, and see everything through a positive lens and other times, we feel like surrounded by a black cloud of misery, and see everything in a negative light?

We feel that we’re walking on cloud nine, and that the world is so beautiful, everyone is loving, and we are fully content to be alive. And those other times, we can’t see past one experience, or we feel blocked in a situation, or we embrace negativity like a second skin.

You see, we live in a world of energy. Our thoughts are energy. When we use our conscious thinking to grasp a thought that has been taking a walk in our mind, we give it energy. We bring it to Life. And this is when the problems start to happen. Our lack of understanding is responsible, not our mind.

Our thoughts have all the same size when they show up in our heads, and when we attach to them, they grow, grow to the point of becoming a belief, or a way of being. If it’s a positive one, we think we are all good.But we still attach to it. But when it is a negative thought, we become agitated, restless. Now we’re in trouble. Now this thing is bothering us, is preventing us to be happy. What a misery!

Working hand in hand with our mind is important. We know we must move our body, feed it proper nutrition and take care of how we treat it every day, in order for it to reach optimal health. What about our mind? What training do we go through, every day? To get to know it, like we would do with our body. Working out with our mind to see how far we can push, and from that, observing and see its patterns, its positive or negative traits. In our Western societies, we place a lot of emphasis on training the body, which will eventually die. What about our mind? We have the obligation to take care of it. For our own sake and the sake of others.

Most people are ignorant of the problems they put themselves through. We feel that we are in charge, that we have our stuff together. We think that we earn good money, have a loving partner, obedient kids, relatively healthy relationships. We work, go on vacation, and we are content. But as soon as a little grain of sand comes to disrupt us, it becomes a catastrophe. It’s our mind that dictates that. Nothing around us has changed, it’s just our mind that has been going on a trip.

When I walk down the street, I always picture people carrying a world of their own around their head, like a bubble floating around them, with their own stories, characters and actions taking place. This is the reality. There is no intrinsic reality, except the one we are creating for ourselves in our mind at each second. The movie never stops, it’s a continuity of scenes, and the mind is the writer. Because we don’t know it well enough, doesn’t mean we have to live a miserable Life. We must examine our own mental attitudes. We must examine the way we react. When we get good news, we’re jumping to the roof. When we encounter someone nasty, we are upset. They shouldn’t be that way. But our mind is the one reacting. Why do we react? Because we have forgotten the true nature of Life.

Life is made of constant changes. Life is impermanent. This concept that nothing lasts, so we should never be attached to anything. When we attach, we suffer. Believing things on the outside world are going to fulfill us for the rest of our lives is living in denial. Believing that a partner will free us from a lack of love is living in denial. Believing that when we reach retirement, we will be at peace. These beliefs place us in a cage, and believing this for ages has made it hard to break free from it. But those things arise in our Life to teach us something. That no matter what, we always have the choice to experience our mind at peace. They keep coming back, to show us how limited we’ve created ourselves, how narrow we’ve made our inner world. Nothing or no one can make you happy. The outside circumstances do not matter. Only our way of Being does. This starts with us understanding the true nature of our mind.

Instead of looking for someone to blame on the outside, because we experience unease, we should always look at ourselves. Putting the blame on our partner, our boss, our politicians is very easy, but why not taking accountability for our own lack of skill set when it comes to our reactive internal patterns?

When we act in such a way that shows we are reacting to something on the outside, we show how weak we are. How short-tempered we are. How not in control of ourselves we are. We keep lying to ourselves in doing so, and this behavior is not sustainable in the long term. Why don’t we aim at being happy, joyful? We are in charge of ourselves. Not our partner, family members, politicians. Whatever they do is their business. What about what we do? What do we do, every day, to improve our peace? Satisfaction comes from our own mind, nothing else. Our mind holds the key to heaven, or to hell.

Let’s make sure we treat ourselves with kindness and wisdom. Let’s ask ourselves, how does being stuck in our heads benefit others? How our irrational behaviors, short-tempered states, contribute to the greater good? What aspects of ourselves are we denying?

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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Resisting our savior’s instinct

When I think about healing, a specific patient of mine comes to mind. She was in her mid-fifties, and she had just gotten out of the hospital after a knee surgery. She was recovering from alcoholism, and she had been under tutelage to deal with her money for years. She was on her own, since she never had a partner and her entire family had died.

I used to work with her five times a week. She was very friendly and had a great sense of humor. She kept telling me that she wanted to make it, and she was motivated to do the work. She never spoke about her addiction. Due to family traumas, she was experiencing mental health issues, and every day, kept rewinding stories about her dead relatives, and that the old times were the best.

We started to implement steps together, for her to get better. She was agreeing to everything I was suggesting. But I soon realized that, even though her words were positive, her actions were the opposite. Like finding a bottle of wine in her fridge, seeing her completely hangover the following day, impulse-buying, or a destructive diet.

It made me think that, even though people say something, it’s not necessarily the truth. Which is a common occurrence in Life, right? People tell stories and they end up not fulfilling the prophecy, for various reasons.

But there are also people who, even though they say they want to change, will never actually step up to the plate. Like my patient.

The thing with change is that, let’s be honest, it’s HARD. No matter what we tell ourselves, it’s so difficult to change. When we start doing the work on ourselves, we feel all the stuff coming to the surface, and this is far from being a pleasant feeling. It’s very uncomfortable, shaky, unknown, and it takes a nearly constant state of stress for us to be able to deal with these emotions. Like a surgeon would cut open somebody, this is what we do with our own mind. Once the cut has been made, we have no other choice but to take take out all the trash and stitch ourselves back up. But sometimes we are so afraid of what we’ll find inside, that we end up putting a bandaid on the cut and forget about it. The stuff that must come out is still there, taking different shapes or forms, to remind us that we are out of alignment with our Truth.

Digging our stuff is not for the faint-hearted. But, do we have a choice? Yes, we do. But do we REALLY have a choice? Well, probably not. Because when we start acknowledging our stuff, then change, transformation, can occur. If we don’t, we’ll stay stuck in these low vibrational states of Being, living in survival mode, pretending we’re good and under control, while the only truth is that we would prefer living in a lie rather that the light. It’s too much pain, it’s too much change. It does not fit us, to feel good and to be different from our family that has perpetuated those states of consciousness from generation to generation. We are afraid of change, because we don’t know what is on the other side of it. Addicted to our emotions and our way of coping with reality through food, drugs, behaviors, attachment, we miss out on Life.

One of the big lessons I’ve learned with this work is that, we quickly see when someone wants to go all the way in, or not. And as a professional, we must also take a step back, because now, by wanting the person to heal, we mess up with our vibration, and their’s. Who are we, anybody, professionals or family members of a loved one, or a partner, or a friend, to want to change someone, to prevent them from drowning in their own misery, or to wanting them to be the hero of their own journey? We are not entitled to their healing. We are not entitled to make them, to hurry them up to feel better. Just because we have done more work, and we have the intellectual knowledge that something better exists for them, does not mean that they have to abide by our rules. People create their own set of rules at every moment, and they own the keys to their Life. Let it be experiencing it in a true remarkable way, or a miserable and uneasy way.

And that’s a reality we need to make peace with. This reality is ours, in our Life, and we know how far we’ve come and how we would never go back to our old self. Despite that, we feel like being the hero in someone else’s journey. We feel like they should know better or do better or think better or eat better.

Being at peace with others not being okay, and not expecting them to live up to our standards, is a big step in surrendering to the reality of Life. Once we understand that we create our own resistance with others, our relationships will become easier and not self-interested anymore.

The only option for us is to keep doing our work and show the world that we are becoming a better person every day, and allowing others, giving them the space, to experience Life the way they chose to.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline