What do you expect?

When we wake up tired in the morning, and that we have a long list to tick before and after work, and that we don’t have the energy to get it done, we are resisting.

When we are stuck in traffic and we get angry, we are resisting.

When we get rejected by our partner and we disagree, we are resisting.

We should be up and running all the time, running against all odds. Sometimes it works, some other times it doesn’t. We must be able to recognize when to push through, or when to be guided.

It’s funny how ego gets in gear straight away. The feelings that show up at that time are most likely anger or unfairness. Because in our mind, it should not happen this way. In our mind, the scenario has been written differently. In our mind, we win. Always.

This resistance to Life, to what is, is one of the most beautiful gifts we can ever receive. While we experience a specific situation at this now moment, we resist, and so we suffer. Why? Because we are not flowing in harmony with what our Being is saying to us. It goes one way, and we wanna go the other way.

This obviously does not mean that we should not plan, or make conscious choices for ourselves. We do so, and then, whatever happens, is out of our control. We have a responsibility for our Life. We are in charge. We are the main character. And not facing reality by ignoring the conditions of our misery, ignoring the conditions of the consequences of the actions we decide to take or not take, is hard to swallow, if we don’t understand that.

Living our Life is accepting, with an open heart, that whatever is given to us was meant for us.

Who are we to play God? Who are we to say “this should happen this way?”, or “I should not have to go through that?”

Because what we think is meant for us is sometimes not meant for us. When we think of a situation we could benefit from, is maybe unlikely to happen. We are not in charge of the big picture. God/The Universe/The Creator is. And when we bathe and relax into that, we make Life a much more pleasant experience.

When we are stuck in a loop of narrow-mindedness, we see our Life through this lens of certainty, while the only certainty in Life is change. We cannot control that.

We spend so much time making sense of the known, while the unknown happens at every moment. At every second, we step into it. What do we know about our day? That we’ll follow our usual schedule, and that nothing is supposed to happen. No misery, no miracle. No Life then? When we expect to not expect, it prevents us from receiving greater experiences.

I was talking to a patient of mine yesterday. Her family had gone a hard Life, and recently events took a turn for the worse. While mentioning the loss of their child years ago, she said to me: “I don’t know the answer, but this was supposed to happen.” When I asked her how she managed to go through this, she said to me “I know my Life does not belong to me, it belongs to God. I don’t attach to anything, because they are not mine. I will not take stuff or people with me when I meet up with God.”

She was expressing what the sages have spent years teaching: accepting the reality for what it is. And surrendering to the big picture while holding our head high and respecting the process.

Steve Jobs was saying that we can only connect the dots when looking backwards. One of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves is to realize that when we attach to certainty, to wanting to know absolutely how things are going to work out for us, we go against our natural state of Being and the energies at work in the universe. This must be let go of, in order to embrace our true purpose.

Let’s remind ourselves that our state of awareness in the present is dependent on how far we’ll come in the future.

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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