What are my options?

There are so many options we can choose from in this lifetime.

Let’s take the place we live in. We can choose to live in our birth country, to move overseas, to travel every year, or go around the block on the weekend.

We can choose to be single, to live with a partner, to get married, to be in a monogamous or polyamorous relationship.

We can choose to not have children, to have children with our partner, to have children with our marriage companion, to have children on our own, to have children through surrogacy, to adopt children.

There are so many options in Life. We live in a world that requires a thought, then an action to get a result. Things don’t just fall from the sky. They are always happening due to us making a conscious, or unconscious choice.

Where we are in Life now, is a result of our actions. Whatever we’ve done before in our Life, got us here and there. It got us in this country, in this job, in this family, in this financial situation.

Take working out, for example, or the lack thereof. We work out, we eat well, we pay attention to our macros and calories, we train hard. The longer we perform this routine, the longer we will experience optimal health. The absence of these actions does not lead there.

The more we entertain something, the more we get of it. The more we entertain a behavior, the longer we’ll behave in such a way that either pleases us or does not.

When we don’t take responsibility for what we’ve created, we always tend to go for the big thing in the wrong areas of our Life. We go hard on the wrong side of the wall. We get busy with stuff that does not matter, and we expect that things will change. We start a spring cleaning instead of working on our new business idea. We go grocery shopping instead of implementing a new financial plan. We talk to our bestie about how wrong our ex-partner was, instead of withdrawing within ourselves to look at our faults. We look at the wrong spots, instead of truly getting back to the main character in our Life: ourselves.

Whenever something goes wrong in our Life, we must acknowledge that we have been created it ourselves.

I agree, there are so very difficult Life situations, that people go through every day. They go through genocides, through wars, through personal traumas. Those are facts. When we can get out of a situation, we do so. When we can’t, we find the resources within.

So many of us are enduring Life as if there is no option to move forward. We get stuck in the past, thinking that God is going to save us. And so we pray, pray, pray, that God will remove the obstacle, while we do not move an inch or still entertain the same unhealthy behaviors.

Praying is actually very efficient, but some people understand it the wrong way.

God always hears us, even when we talk to him in our head. What I love with prayers is that it is not really about God hearing us, but about what we put out there, and acknowledging ourselves, by hearing it from us. By talking about it to The Creator/The Universe, we are actually realizing the intention for ourselves to move forward. It is a great reminder for us to have those dialogues with the Divine, to be consciously aware of what we are asking, experiencing, and demanding. This is not something on the outside that will change our Life. When we have enough, or when we are driven by a higher cause, we will shift inwards, and things will start changing in the outside. God always listens.

Being stuck in the old energy of familiarity is one of the most dangerous experiences in Life. Because when we are, we do not take accountability, we stay in our comfort zone, and we don’t seek anything else. Life is made to seek what we feel inside, on the outside. It’s simply a game of energy. We can give ourselves the gift of abundance, by making the decision to do so.

Right NOW.

By authorizing ourselves to experience a different Life situation, a fulfilling job, a healthy romantic partner, a financial stability. The way out of trauma is so simple. We simply stop repeating the story to ourselves. Acknowledging what we went through, and move on. I would say, move up, instead of move on, Moving up to a higher timeline, to better standards for ourselves. This small piece of us we call mind does not have to dictate our Life. Those decisions are deeply personal and, unless we experience it ourselves, by feeling the contrast, we will never have the answer. It takes planning and requires to be practical, but it’s worth it to find out the infinite possibilities in this Life. We are always free, no matter what.

Our mind’s job is not to understand and analyze and find solutions, it is to be present in the now, and act accordingly. We will then be directed towards ways to reach our dreams, or better our Life, or whatever it might be, at every moment. If our response has always been the same, how can we react differently?

It is by seeking discomfort that we embody our Truth.

We must be very much aware of how we function and what we want from this Life. Knowing ourselves by feeling everything we have swept under the rug and walked away from.

Working with people who are close to Death made me realize how tiny we are and how less time we think we have. It’s up to us to decide how long we want to experience this portion of Life. How do we want to contribute to ourselves? How do we want to express ourselves? How do we create? How do we interact with Mother Earth and human Beings in a way that is contributing to the collective?

Instead of settling for fear, struggle, hurt, pain, suffering, why don’t we decide to settle for harmony, ease, compassion, fulfillment, pure love? When we make that decision, there is no other option for our inner world to change, and it will change the relationship we entertain with every living being, for the best.

How do you want to live your Life?

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

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