Take off your mask
One of the greatest lies of the human experience is inauthenticity.
Let’s be real here. Most of us pretend to be someone we’re not. In front of family, in front of friends, in front of coworkers, in front of potential partners.
We are so used to being this human, that we don’t truly know who we are. So many layers of conditioning have kicked in from the day we were born, till now. So many beliefs, so many automatic responses, that we no longer ask ourselves this question. Who are we, really?
It’s like when we match someone on dating apps. When we get to finally hang out with the guy we’ve matched with, we spend hours pimping ourselves up in the mirror, putting our best makeup, dressing up with our most expensive dress and fancy shoes, and we aim to look like an 11 out of 10. But isn’t it lying to the person in front of us, to show this best side of ourselves? Why wouldn’t we show up as we truly are, without artifice?
It depends where we grew up, but there is this social norm that we should always look our best and pretend that we’re all fine. We’re not. And that’s ok. I’m not talking about dumping our emotions on some acquaintances we meet on the street, but about being honest with ourselves. I’m talking about facing reality for what it is and being grounded in this reality. I’m talking about being honest with our feelings, emotions, our way of Being, and the way we live our Life. Why not change the way we interact with others, and be a bit more authentic? A bit more vulnerable? “Oh Gosh, I could never.” Why? Because we are so used to pretending and living up to people’s standards. What about what WE want?
Plus, pretending to be someone else does not serve us, but neither does it serve other people. The root of our interaction with them being based on a lie, that means we emit a vibration of self-interest, that we want to be chosen and approved by them. This mindset aligns straight into a vibration of scarcity, of lack. This is what we emit every second we spend being inauthentic. And it takes so much energy to pretend. When we free up this energy to align with our true self, we get in flow and everything feels like ease.
Because if we are not being authentic, we will spend our entire Life trying to please others, to belong somewhere, to possess stuff that no longer matters when we get old, and trying to be someone we were not meant to be from the beginning. Why not chill a little, step back, and look within us? There is so much beauty that is buried under all these different masks we force ourselves to wear. To please who? And why? Why do we do that? Because we want to belong. Because we believe that people will accept us this way, because we will feel alive, by getting other people’s validation. But how can they accept us, if from the start, we do not accept ourselves the way we truly are? How miserable we make ourselves, pretending for years, and in some cases, for a lifetime? This is a lack of self-compassion to ourselves.
How are we supposed to have boundaries with others, if we are tolerating our own behaviour? How are we supposed to entertain healthy relationships with others if we lie to ourselves? How are we supposed to be in a reliable, trustworthy, and honest relationship with a partner, if we pretend? I know people who live this way, and they are miserable. And because they’ve gone too far, they think it’s too late. But it’s never too late. We can start from now on, to be authentically ourselves.
I agree, it takes work, effort. Fear gets in the way. But being authentic, by acknowledging who we are as a whole, is life changing. We must be at peace with our traumas, how we’ve lived our Life, how we’ve treated others, and how others have treated us, and move on to the real awareness of Life. It doesn’t matter what people think about us. That’s their stuff to deal with. Among the billions of people on this planet, what are we supposed to do? Be a different person every time we meet someone new? It’s not sustainable, and our energy suffers from that state.
Being grounded in ourselves in one of the most beautiful gifts we must afford.
Because when we make this decision, there is no turning back. There is nowhere to hide. There is no exit. How frightening? Well, it’s up to us. Would we rather live in heaven, or in hell? It’s time to get real with ourselves.
Knowing who we truly are, without stopping every two seconds by looking at others and comparing ourselves, does not cost anything. Except our freedom. Comparison is irrelevant, we are our unique self, and no one knows what is feels like to be us. The only way for us to know is to EXPERIENCE that, by looking within. This energy of authenticity aligns with the energy of God. And when we do that, everything changes.
With love and gratitude,
Caroline
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